What I'd Like for You to Know

As I was reading through some of the blogs I like to read, I came across a post at Rocks In My Dryer, that intrigued me. She is doing a series entitled What I'd Like for You to Know. I thought about the journey we've been on for the last ten and half years and what I really wish people knew about how we ended up where we are. Most of the time I really don't know how to explain this whole messed up adoption to myself, much less to other people when they ask. I want people to know that we made the best decisions we could based on the information we had. I want people to know that when they see cases like this on TV or read about them in the newspaper, it's not always as cut and dry as it seems. People think why don't you just give the baby back before it's too, late and they have solid memories and relationships built. I know because I was one of the people who thought like that before it was me. It seems that the situation takes on a life of its own and you have no control.

I want people to know that we can't just do nothing until she's 18. It is urgent for her future that we work towards an end now. If we wait she doesn't have a future-no college, no legal status, no legal rights to get a job,no security. She's just in limbo.

I want people to know that we aren't strong and admirable. If we let this stay on the forefront of our thoughts all the time, we would drive ourselves crazy. We are just like everyone else, trying to make the best of the situation and holding on to the faith we have in Jesus.

I want people to know that adoption is still a great thing, even when as humans we mess everything up.